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summerw
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Date Posted：03/07/2007 8:10 PMCopy HTML my name is summer (obviously) and i was a member of the GRC since birth till when i left at 17.
i don't know where to start with this story but here goes, up until i was three we lived in geelong and then my mum married a man from warrnambool so we moved there. the night before the wedding my mother went to john buckle saying that she had grave concerns and did not want the marrige to proceed BUT, as it went she was told that the lord would bless blah blah blah and told to go ahead, this man turned out to be mentally ill to the point that he tried to kill my mother , broke my arm (i remember), and psychologically abused my sister, the only good thing to come from him was my younger brother. The marriage lasted 4 weeks. as we were then officially "manless" we assumed our rightful place at the bottom of the hierarchy. from the age of .. since i can remember i was sexually abused by another member of this "church". when i was 14 he went to the pastor to confess his sins, he rang me to tell me what he had done and when asked him why he replied " i had to or else we both would go to hell"!!!!!!! The same day allan gangly came around to our house to hear my confession. i begged my mum that my step father(another one sorry i skjipped a few years, also we now lived in melbourne) not be present , but she replied, he is the god appointed head of this household and its his right to be present. hmmm what about my rights? anyway, during this truely delightful interview i was asked such intellectual questions as "How many inches of penetration where there" and "was i ever in the family way?" to which i was expected to answer, of course the avenue that i was being abused was never explored, i was the female i must have been responsible somehow. anyway in the end it was decided that "the lord knew"and no futher action was nessasary. Because of this attitude toward me i denied as much as possible and made out like it was only the once it happened, when really it had been going on for 11 years. so fast forward 6 years and abuse still continuing, surprise , surprise, i had developed a faily healthy double life as well as a delicious drug habit. i knew i had to leave but could not face what i knew i would be doing to my family, and besides that life in the grc was all i had even known, what was i going to do on my own, so i made the decision to get myself kicked out with no hope of return. i had to confess to something that was beyond their scope to deal with...i know! I'll tell them im a drug addict, they wont see that one coming.but it was really quite interesting how it all turned out, after i told my mum and pastor ag was called, i was eventually asked why i was taking drugs, Why do you think? i replied, because i cant cope with being abused." Does that still bother you" came my mums incredible reply , after all ' the lord knew', didn't he?.. When it finally came out that the abuse was ongoing and hadn't been just the once i was put out of fellowship for lying about it when i was 14. can you believe that, well its true, (and that's just a drop in the ocean to what went on in that place), so the obligatory suicide attempts and stays in the pysch. ward followed. oh i forgot the best bit. as we are all brothers and sisters in the lord, when my eldest brother ( who is still a member to this day) asked ag what id been put out for , his reply? incest. |
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Re：Sexual abuse covered up by GRC Date Posted：03/07/2007 8:37 PMCopy HTML Reply to : summerw
i hate that. confessing the sin to the pastor and getting aquitted... pastors should tell authorities, not pat on back and say tsk tsk. I've said it before... repentance and 'salvation' do not equal the right to avoid legal ramifications. Instagram and Twitter: @mothpete
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summerw
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Re：Sexual abuse covered up by GRC Date Posted：03/07/2007 8:54 PMCopy HTML yeah, me too. went to the police a few years ago but unfortunatly mandatory reporting laws didnt come in until 94, thought i had them legally for a bit. but i am studying law so we'll see.. |
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Glad-to be out
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Re：Sexual abuse covered up by GRC Date Posted：04/07/2007 9:29 AMCopy HTML Reply to : summerw Everyone who reads this Forum -exGRCers or current attendees are so much more enlightened for you having shared this with us. They say that knowledge is power and that is what we strive to do on this Forum, empower people, give them courage to stand up for themselves and only by doing that will anything be achieved to stop the pervading evil that is in the midst of the GRC!!!!! I don't like saying things like this because sometimes it causes a knee-jerk reaction, but God Bless you Summer. Love Glad
"Faith is not about everything turning out OK; Faith is about being OK no matter how things turn out."
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summerw
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Re：Sexual abuse covered up by GRC Date Posted：04/07/2007 10:59 AMCopy HTML |
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Glad-to be out
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Re：Sexual abuse covered up by GRC Date Posted：04/07/2007 11:08 AMCopy HTML Reply to : summerw Glad
"Faith is not about everything turning out OK; Faith is about being OK no matter how things turn out."
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Re：Sexual abuse covered up by GRC Date Posted：05/07/2007 5:18 AMCopy HTML
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Morning Sunshine
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Re：Sexual abuse covered up by GRC Date Posted：08/07/2007 10:35 AMCopy HTML Hi To You Summerw,
Wow, What a journey you have been through.The positive side to all these years of abuse to you summerw,can really hold you into a tremendace powerfull position to help many others through their lives of adversity.The way you have endured all the years of abuse that you have, can only now make you a great ambassitor for the future cause, partically if you are entering into a life helping other people.(law) Goodluck to you girl, You will certainly add great strength to your future and others. KEEP ALL THE STRENGTHS THAT YOU HAVE SHOWN STRONG HERE, AND MOVE INTO THE FUTURE WITH ALL THAT YOU HAVE. Lots OF LOVE M.S. Let"s Fly Away.
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Re：Sexual abuse covered up by GRC Date Posted：08/07/2007 8:38 PMCopy HTML
I concure summer w it will serve to strengthen you and help you relate to others who have gone through or going through the same thing. Like being an ex rever noone else really understands like one that has been through it Look forward to seeing you grow in your journey earth5
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Re：Sexual abuse covered up by GRC Date Posted：16/05/2015 12:28 PMCopy HTML Reply to summerw yeah, me too. went to the police a few years ago but unfortunatly mandatory reporting laws didnt come in until 94, thought i had them legally for a bit. but i am studying law so we'll see.. Hang on..... My father confessed to the pastors in the Brisbane Revival Centres that he was molesting me and my sister..... He confessed in 1997.... He was excommunicated but no one told the police so he continued the abuse for another 18months until I finally told my mother..... I left the church because I could never accept how they could have let me down like that and to this day, they maintain that there were no mandatory laws forcing them to report my father to the authorities.... Are you absolutely sure the laws came in in 1994? |
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Re：Sexual abuse covered up by GRC Date Posted：18/05/2015 2:52 AMCopy HTML HI Bekc, I have 'Googled' a few sights and find that 'mandatory' reporting for 'all' ( including religious) organisations, didn't commence until 2014. This follows the recent inquiry of sexual abuse by the Roman Catholic clergy. I may be wrong and more research from 'credited' sites is needed. Anyone? Ralph PS notwithstanding, the 'mongrels' still had a moral duty of care to report it before hand. I believe in Christianity as I believe the sun has risen; not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else. C.S.Lewis.
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Summer, you are so brave and you are a survivor. You have my admiration and my utmost respect. I know that to relive the events, in the telling of your story, puts you back in a very dark place for a time.
You are still a champion!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
