hi. im just new to all this but from what ive read so far i see alot of hurting people whos lives have been affected because of experiences in the revival centre. Some more than others. My life has been a nightmare since I joined the place but I dont sit around and feel sorry for myself like alot of people but keep battling against the odds and believe me there is alot of them. Put the past behind you instead of discussing these people and their pathetic lives.

gloria2

what i mean to say is that these cruel people still have control over us when we keep discussing them and their lives. It is just another form of bondage rather than healing. I didnt mean to sound harsh but instead have had to be like this for myself in order to survive it all. Putting them out of my life and mind has worked for me. sorry im actually on your side.im just one of you.

we all cope with what happend differently, and we are all in different stages of our recovery. we all battle with the odds i dont think anyone here is jus sitting around. we all have lives outside the forum as well as familys that dont stop jus cause your having a bad day. but for some of us talking helps us heal and alot of the bitterness comes from people who have recently left, who are still trying to pick up the peices and find a way to move on, people for whom the wounds are still new.

im sorry its been so hard for you, maybe it would help to talk- letting go of the secrets and pain is very liberating, and there are alot of people who will support you

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gloria2what i mean to say is that these cruel people still have control over us when we keep discussing them and their lives. It is just another form of bondage rather than healing. I didnt mean to sound harsh but instead have had to be like this for myself in order to survive it all. Putting them out of my life and mind has worked for me. sorry im actually on your side.im just one of you

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i hate to tell you but i did exactly the same thing, i pushed everything down and moved on, only thing is i didnt deal with it and 10 years later im haveing to deal with things that i should have long befor now (jus so you know the ability to push things down and ignore them like that comes from long term abuse) you will have to deal with it all one day- better for you and your family if you do it sooner rather than later.

talking about what has happend to you isnt giving the people who have hurt us more power- it takes it away, we reaveal the truth- and the truth will set you free. also it means people who are experiencing or who have experienced what we went through can see it isnt just them and hopefully that there is life after revival you only need to talk to people like earth 5, sea urchin, set free, old holborn ect to see people who have found peace

if you would prefer not to talk about the past thats ok, and you can make friendships here with people who do understand, who are more than happy to support and up lift you, sometimes it can take a little time.

i can hear your pain in what you write, and all i can tell you is its ok to hurt, you dont have to be strong all the time, dont always need to be ok to be in control.

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Reply to : gloria2gloria2what i mean to say is that these cruel people still have control over us when we keep discussing them and their lives. It is just another form of bondage rather than healing. I didnt mean to sound harsh but instead have had to be like this for myself in order to survive it all. Putting them out of my life and mind has worked for me. sorry im actually on your side.im just one of youi hate to tell you but i did exactly the same thing, i pushed everything down and moved on, only thing is i didnt deal with it and 10 years later im haveing to deal with things that i should have long befor now (jus so you know the ability to push things down and ignore them like that comes from long term abuse) you will have to deal with it all one day- better for yo

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thanks break free It sounds like you know whats going on more than me. In my experience people always let you down sooner or later and its better not to put your trust in them and then have to deal with the disappointment later. I did confide in an ex revivalist to begin with but that too has come to an end. Just more hurt upon heart but i will give this talking a try once again.

gloria2

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Reply to : break freeReply to : gloria2gloria2what i mean to say is that these cruel people still have control over us when we keep discussing them and their lives. It is just another form of bondage rather than healing. I didnt mean to sound harsh but instead have had to be like this for myself in order to survive it all. Putting them out of my life and mind has worked for me. sorry im actually on your side.im just one of youi hate to tell you but i did exactly the same thing, i pushed everything down and moved on, only thing is i didnt deal with it and 10 years later im haveing to deal with things that i should have long befor now (jus so you know the ability to push things down and ignore them like that comes from long term abuse) you will have to deal with it all one day- better for yo

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i guess it depends on what you trust them with...

we all have wall built up to protect us- for some its a little stone wall you could easily step over, for others a high turreted castel. there arnt alot of people in this world that i would truly trust with everything, and they have proven over along time how much i can trust them. but most of the people here dont have any alteria motives (except for a few trolls that come an go- and are pretty easy to spot) not everyone has good advice and you should always listen to yourself about whats right and wrong. but we are all here to deal with what happened to us in the revival cults, and we all want to see the other membours heal and find a peace and happyness in their lives.

you can take as long as you like- talk and build relationships with people befor you open up if thats what you need (i just jumped in and blerted it all out kinda like ripping of a band-aid lol but that was because i knew if i didnt i would never get the courage to talk about what happend to me) however feels right to you is fine- just remember there are people here who will care about you no strings attached