A woman whos husband died remarried a...Catholic!!!! The reason that went ahead was because the husband Had to leave the Catholic church and go to the rev ctr.
What was worse was that the husband was told he COULD NOT attend his grand daughters first communion. He had to forget his family. (He went anyway).
Now, consider the closeness of the RC community. This woman has been going to the meetings for 40 years, but knows nobody in the church. She goes along on Sunday at 3.00pm, sits at the back of the hall and as soon as the meeting is finished (before the closing choruses) she leaves. That is her Christian life. 80minutes on a Sunday. And the elders don't say anything to her. Still, I guess they are happy she goes there rather than somewhere else, it keeps the numbers up.
It sounds good to say people have been members of the church for 40 years, just don't mention their Christian walk.