My wife has been going to the Revival Fellowship for nearly eighteen months (since September 2009) was baptised in Feb 2010 and "received" in March 2010.

When she started going I wasn't overly concerned.  One of her workmates introduced her, and her workmate's husband is a Pastor (whatever that means).

It wasn't until a few months ago when I started to get concerned.  My wife started to take on a sanctimonious holier-than-thou approach to life and in December 2010, after 12 years of marriage and overcoming many problems, she told me she didn't love me any more and wanted a divorce.   This all came out of the blue without warning whatsoever.

Immediately I started to wonder where the thoughts had come from and looked at her church.   Oh dear.   Have I left it too late?   I've done a lot of research on the RF over the last few months, so I don't need to be informed of its shortcomings, teachings and the Pastors' Manual guidelines.

I've been to many RF gatherings, and have attended five Sunday meetings at Gosford and one at New Lambton (NSW).  In all of the Sunday meetings, the sermons have been ranting crap - the one at New Lambton done by a bloke called Ian was actually quite offensive.  If there had been any Muslims attending the fellowship I reckon he'd have needed to have a good look under his car before driving home that afternoon - and with just cause from what he said, IMHO!   He opened by belittling the Muslim faith and then three minutes later was going on about the need to be humble.  I cracked up, and took a bit to stop laughing, everyone was turning around looking at me in that self-righteous pseudo-indignant manner they seem to be able to do quite well.

I find the sermons seem to quote random verses of the bible and then use them to prove anything-you-like.  For instance one sermon tried to link the book of Ecclesiastes with knowledge of the coming of Christ.  I've gone through Eccelsiastes a number of times before and since, and I can't see any LINK with Jesus in it, let alone a forshadowing of his coming.

But that's all beside the point.  My wife has swallowed it hook line and sinker, and while she used to be a nice person last year, she's now been converted into a self-righteous bitch.   Apparently she's been talking about divorce with elders of the church.  They've told her it's not an option (thank YOU, 1 Corinthians 14).  So now she's "tolerating" me and doesn't want a divorce.

However, with her in that way, *I'm* the one now thinking about a divorce.  Nothing I seem to be able to say has any effect on her.  I've proven a number of illogical things about the fellowship, shown her extracts from the Pastors' Manual, discussed many parts of the sermons and the biblical "lessons", gone along to half a dozen Sunday meetings just to be sure that there might be something in it, but I'm now right at the end of my tether.

I've been given all the advice under the sun - be careful, don't try to do too much at once, don't insult her beliefs, take it easy on her and all that stuff, but she's just a lost cause to this cult.  It is SOOOO sad.  In Feb 2008 I spent three months in hospital after nearly dieing, and she came down EVERY day from Gosford to Royal North Shore hospital, a commute over an hour and half each way.  2 years later it looks like it's coming to an end.

Is there some magic secret that I can use to just snap her out of it?    Do I have to not just threaten to leave, but actually leave for a while?  Can I simply forbid her from attending the RF as per 1 Corinthians 14 ?  Or do I just need to be patient and wait for some event to happen at the RF that is going to turn her away from the congregation?

Having met many followers of the RF at various events, picnics, dinners and meetings I can say that they are quite detestable people.  Perhaps this will be the catalyst for her awakening???   Please help - I've probably heard what you're going to say already, but who knows, something might just unlock this puzzle for me!