Children in CHDGs

Markowitz and Halperin (1984) discuss the vulnerability and abuse of children in cults. A child's parent, who is in a dependent, regressive state due to being under the influence of the group's leader(s), "is prone toward abusive practices" (p. 154) and power over children is often the only power this parent may have. Most adults in CHDGs live in a state of unpredictability, in that one never knows when the "axe will fall" and the member will be disciplined (shunned, put in the "hot seat", lose privileges, etc.).

When a parent's life is unpredictable, the parent's behavior toward the child is also unpredictable with regard to support, neglect, or anger. This unpredictability impedes the child's ability to develop a sense of safety or consistency in his or her view of the parent and the environment. When the parent is unpredictable or the parent dissociates (is psychologically absent while physically present), the child's ability to perceive whether there is danger or safety is impaired and the child becomes hypervigilant, or super organized around assessing the state of the parent.  This may trigger a "freeze" response in the child in which the child dissociates. Dissociated parents may trigger dissociation in infants. In addition, in CHDGs children are often separated from their parents at an early age (two years old - five years old) and placed in collective environments where another adult or adults assume educational and child-rearing responsibilities. Rochford (1999) says that in ISKCON (International Society for Krishna Consciousness) children were separated from their parents at age four or five to be raised by others because parents tend not to be strict enough with their own children. The ISKCON schools (gurukulas) became the children's primary environment and they spent only brief periods with their parents during the year.

Tragically, this system compromised the safety of many children who suffered from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse while in the care of their teachers.  It is important to note that ISKCON has made significant changes in recent years to increase safety for children, though this does not diminish the negative impacts on those who were not protected for many years. The Sullivan Institute/Fourth Wall (SI/FW), which was a psychoanalytic and political group, instituted the practice of separating children as young as three years old from their parents, "the rationale being the less exposure there was to parents, the better the child's mental health would be" (Siskind, 1999, p. 59).

Children who grow up in such environments are at-risk for many significant issues, including but not limited to:

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         lack of an appropriate, consistent caretaker;

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         lack of healthy attachment to appropriate caretaker;

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         lack of adequate medical care;

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         isolation;

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         physical abuse;

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         physical neglect;

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         sexual abuse;

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         educational neglect;

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         lack of intellectual stimuli;

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         unrealistic expectations that children participate in adult activities, such as meditation, fasting, sexual activity; and 

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         suppression of developmental tasks.

The parents of children in CHDGs are often thought-reformed to believe that normal human feelings for their children, such as love, concern, and attachment, are not "spiritual" or that these feelings dilute the group's higher or special purpose. Children, who are naturally striving to accomplish normal developmental tasks such as identity, safety and independence, are labeled "possessed," crazy, or bad. The parents' confusion, the negative labels, and the overt and covert negative messages children receive about their worth and safety are all factors that contribute to traumatic experiences for them. In turn these early traumatic experiences interfere with healthy attachment and negatively impact the child's ability to develop and mature in healthy ways.

Reber (1996), cites Bowlby, who defines attachment as a "lasting psychological connectedness between human beings" (p. 83). Bowlby (in Reber 1996) says that attachment is a fundamental building block for human development, and describes the bond between mother (or other consistent, appropriate caretaker) and infant as critical to healthy development. Also, in Reber (1996)  Waters, Posada, Crowell and Lay state that "children who have secure attachments are ?inoculated' from adverse outcomes throughout development" (p.84). Lack of healthy attachment, then, is truly a very traumatic beginning for any child. Early problems with attachment can have long term negative impacts, including "skew[ing] the developmental trajectory of the right brain over the rest of the life span" (Shore, 2002 p.24). Schore (2002) states that the right brain is "dominant for attachment, affect regulation and stress modulation" (p. 2), and he further states that "the organization of the brain's essential coping mechanisms occurs in crucial periods of infancy" (p.26).  Van der Kolk, McFarlane, and Weisaeth (1996) say that

(t)rauma early in the life cycle fundamentally effects the maturation of the systems in charge of the regulation of psychological and biological processes. The disruption of these self-regulatory processes makes these individuals vulnerable to develop chronic affect dysregulation, destructive behavior against self and others, learning disabilities, dissociative problems, somatization and distortions in concepts about self and others. (pp. x-xi).

In a presentation on trauma in Denver, Colorado January 26, 2001, Van der Kolk said that alcoholism and religious fanaticism are two prime factors that increase the likelihood of child abuse. The resultant lack of early, healthy attachment can lead to clinging or detachment in interpersonal relationships.

Normal Development

There are many models of human development. Because safety and trust are the foundation for healthy development and because Erik Erikson's (1950) model is simple and clear I've chosen to use his model of developmental stages as a template. Erikson's eight stages are summarized in the following table:

Each stage of development has its "tasks" which are building blocks or the foundation for each subsequent stage. If the emotional and physical needs of the child are adequately met, the child appropriately completes the task, i.e., learning to trust, learning to develop autonomy, etc. If the child's needs are NOT adequately met, the child can still move on to the next stage, but his or her emotional and mental well being is compromised and subsequent tasks, as well as relationships, can become more difficult to complete. For the purposes of this paper I will give an overview of the first five steps, covering the life span from infancy through adolescence. The negative outcomes are based on the work of Bryant, Kessler, & Shirar (1992).

Development and Trauma

According to John Briere (1996) there are three primary self-capacities that develop in normal early childhood. These are:

1.      Identity?which provides a consistent sense of personal existence and enables the individual to respond from an internal sense of security. Unstable identity may cause an individual to become easily overwhelmed.

2.      Boundary?awareness of separation between self and others. Those with poor boundaries tend to allow others to intrude upon them, or they intrude upon others. This can lead to a lack of awareness of personal rights to safety and/or difficulty with interpersonal relations.

3.      Affect regulation?which includes: (a) affect modulation (self-soothing techniques to reduce or change painful emotion) and (b) affect tolerance (ability to experience negative affect without resorting to external destructive or self-destructive behaviors or "acting out").

Briere (1996), citing Bowlby, says that these self-capacities help establish a sense of internal stability, a secure psychological base from which to interact with the world. In the context of sustained external security, which is provided in the relationship between child and primary caretaker, the child learns to deal with occasional uncomfortable experiences and internal states, which leads to a continuous building of a stronger set of internal resources and sense of self (Briere, 1996). Sustained external security is not present in an abusive or neglectful environment. In such an environment, "the overwhelming stress of maltreatment [whether it is abuse and/or neglect] is associated with adverse influences on brain development" (deBellis, Baum, Birmaher, Keshavan, Eccard, Boring, Jenkins, & Ryan), cited in traumapages.com/schore (2002). This is known as relational or interpersonal trauma. Early relational trauma has a significantly greater negative impact than non-relational trauma (such as from a natural disaster, accident, etc.) over the lifespan.  Relational trauma is usually "complex" trauma.

John Briere (1996) says that complex trauma is characterized by the following:

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         Onset - usually involves or includes childhood

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         Duration - prolonged

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         Frequency - multiple exposures

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         Relational - usually interpersonal 

?SPAN style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">         Complexity - multiple victimization modalities (neglect, physical, sexual, medical, emotional, etc.)

Mary Sue Moore, a clinical psychologist and researcher who has done much work and research on patterns of attachment in infants and children, says that early trauma activates the brain stem which can lead to hypersensitivity to the environment and induce a fight, flight, or freeze response. This brain stem activation makes it very difficult, if not impossible, to think oneself out of the traumatic response (personal communication, 2002).

Over the long term, infants and children who dissociate in order to cope with traumatic experiences often become adults who dissociate when faced with traumatic or significantly stressful situations. Adults with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) may regress to their younger developmental stage and coping modality in stressful situations. The adult, then, is again in a state in which he or she cannot think his or her way out of the situation. Ogawa, Sroufe, Weinfield, Carlson, & Egeland, cited in traumapages.com/shore (2002), found that "early trauma more so than later trauma has a greater impact on the development of dissociative behaviors" (section titled: continuity between infant, childhood, and adult ptsd). The brain itself is negatively impacted. Early, pre-verbal experiences, including traumatic experiences are sensorily stored with the smells, sensations and motor activity present during the experiences. Those who suffer from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder can be triggered through the senses to these earlier, traumatic experiences.

Development in CHDGs

The next step is putting this information together and examining child development using Erikson's model (1950) in the context of a thought reform program, using Lifton's model (1961) and Bryant, et al's theory of the negative messages children internalize in an unsafe environment (1992).

Milieu Control - the control of communication within an environment; builds unhealthy boundaries. Parents may be given directives about parenting do's and don'ts: Don't hold children; don't respond to their cries; Do keep them quiet; Don't be attached to them. The message children receive is "my needs are not okay" or "I am not important"  "I am not safe" which is essentially dispensing of existence. Infants learn that they cannot trust that their needs will be met.

Mystical Manipulation - "divine authority" mandates dysfunctional and/or abusive parenting. This authority allows any means toward a "higher end" or goal. Verbal and non-verbal messages are given to infants that interfere with the development of trust.

Demand for Purity - absolute separation of good and evil within self and within the environment. Good children behave in proscribed ways and do not "act" like children. Children are often forced to participate in rituals that are not age-appropriate. Shame and doubt interfere with development of autonomy or the belief that it's okay to think and feel for oneself.

The Cult of Confession - one-on-one or group confession (by child or on behalf of child) for the purpose of humiliating the confessor and creating dependency upon the leader for one's definition of goodness. Humiliation discourages risk-taking; the child develops a sense of guilt and is fearful of exhibiting initiative.

Sacred Science and Doctrine over Person - the teachings of the CHDG and/or leader is the Ultimate Truth that allows for no questioning. The individual is always inferior to the Ultimate Truth of the group or leader(s). This necessitates denial of self and self-perception. When parents or caretakers encourage a child to become self-directed the child develops a sense of competence. The inability to question or to value one's own ideas lead to the development of inferiority. The child is always secondary to the doctrine or leader(s).

Dispensing of Existence - anyone not in the group or not embracing the "truth" is insignificant, not "saved," or "unconscious"; the outside world or members who leave the group are rejected. The developmental tasks of adolescents are to separate from their caretakers and create their own identity. This cannot be done without thinking for oneself and adopting one's own set of values. Yet to do so in a cultic environment is tantamount to rejecting "Truth". The only way to survive is to dispense of self.

Loading of the Language -- use of terms, jargon that have group-specific meaning; phrases that will keep one in, or bring one back into, the cult mindset. In the case of a child growing up in a thought reform environment theses meanings are the only ones the child will learn. The loaded language is the child's first language. Upon leaving the group an adolescent or adult questions his or her competence at understanding the language, behaviors, and customs of the culture.

Judith Herman, in her widely respected book Trauma and Recovery (1992) states that

(r)epeated trauma in adult life erodes the structure of the personality already formed, but repeated trauma in childhood forms and deforms the personality. The child trapped in an abusive environment is faced with formidable tasks of adaptation. She must find a way to preserve a sense of trust in people who are untrustworthy, safety in a situation that is unsafe, control in a situation that is terrifyingly unpredictable, power in a situation of helplessness. Unable to care for or protect herself, she must compensate for the failures of adult care and protection with the only means at her disposal, an immature system of psychological defenses (p. 96).